Change - Making it POSSIBLE

If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you've already got.

In order to move forward, we must change.

· Discontentment with your current state.
The first step in the process of change is to not want to be where you
currently are. If you are overweight, you must say, "I will not accept
this anymore." If you encounter a failure, you must say, "I cannot tolerate this any longer." This is a decision to change and not accept the status-quo.

· The picture of your preferred outcome.
What is it that you want to change to? It absolutely is not enough to say "I need to change." It must be: "I am going to change to." This becomes the goal. I would encourage you to get a mental picture of it formulated in your mind. Get a real picture of it if it is that tangible.

· Discipline yourself.
Understand, this is ONLY up to you. At the heart of change is the ability to discipline ourselves. I cannot lose your weight. Your neighbors cannot go out and make your career goals happen.

The only real obstacle standing between your current state and your
desired outcome is YOU ! So do everything you can to get yourself motivated to change! Force yourself to get out of bed and get to work on your goals!
Discipline yourself. Choose to make the right decision.

(The only problem is at times we dont know what the right decision is....)

In early 80's, Gregory David Roberts, an armed robber & heroine addict, escaped from Australian prison to India, where he lived in a Mumbai slum, learnt hindi & marathi, worked in Bollywood, established health clinic and also joined MAFIA..on top of he also fought with the Mujahedeen in Afghanistan..."SHANTARAM"  the latest novel in literary fiction is a masterpiece with great storytelling and an extraordinary true story of 8 years in Bombay underworld..a must read for real adventure lovers..

Mera kuch saamaan tumhare paas pada hai -2
o o o ! saavan ke kuch bheege bheege din rakhe hain
aur mere ik khat main lipti raat padi hai
vo raat bhulaa do, mera vo saamaan lauta do - 2
mera kuch saamaan tumhaare paas pada hai - 2patjhad hai kcuh ... hai na ?
o ! patjhas main kuch patton ke girne kee aahat
kaanon main ek baar pahan ke laut aai thee
patajhad kee vo saakh abhi tak kaanp rahi hai
vo saakh gira do, mera vo saamaan lauta do - 2ek akeli chhataree main jab aadhe aadhe bheeg rahe the - 2
aadhe sookhe aadhe geele, sukha to main le aaye thee
geela man shayad bistar ke paas pada ho
vo bhijwa do, mera vo saamaan lauta do
ek so sola chaand ki ratain ek tumhare kaandhe ka til - 2
geeli mahendi ki khushbu, jhoot mooth ke shikwe kuch
jhooth mooth ke wade sab yaad karaa do
sab bhijwa do, mera vo saamaan lauta do - 2ek ijaazat de do bas, jab isako dafanaaungee
main bhi vaheen so jaungee
main bhi vaheen so jaungee

The focus is on self-confidence and self-esteem. In my opinion, there is nothing more important than your belief in your own potential for success and happiness, regardless of your age, gender, ethnicity, looks, education or background. The truth is, every day "You only sell you." You don't sell products or a business concept. You sell the value of the person offering the products and services. Everybody loves a winner, and we all want to buy from winners who pass their own value on to us.

Self-confidence isn't something you were born with. It's something you develop. Many of us were cultivated like weeds as children. We played inferior roles to the adults around us, who frequently reminded us of our faults and shortcomings more than our successes and abilities.

If you had that type of childhood, as I did, you face a special challenge in building up your self-confidence as an adult. Here are some basic points to remember about yourself:

1. Realize that the most important opinion about you is the one that you hold. Ultimately, nobody else is responsible for your life but you. Nobody else is accountable for your actions but you. Therefore, nobody's opinion about you is more important than yours.

2. Recognize that the most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself. Whether or not you are aware of it, you have a running conversation with yourself from the time you get up to the time you go to sleep. Your thoughts and ideas are "you talking to you." Have daily conversations with yourself that are supportive and reinforcing. We know the value of talking to people who praise us, reward us, recognize us, are happy to see us, and let us know they genuinely enjoy talking with us. Talk to yourself with those same qualities – silently as well as audibly.

3. Develop a strong system of internal values. Weigh what you hold to be true, good and lasting. Write down some of your values for periodic review. Read material that reinforces what you hold to be significant in life. Know what you believe and why you believe it. At times, have discussions – even debates – with yourself. Draw conclusions about life. Think about deeper issues. Your values will greatly affect how you relate to others. The stronger your values are, the greater the impact. If you are lacking in internal values, you will tend to draw from and even use other people to try to mimic their behaviors, if only superficially. Instead, seek to become a model, one who can help and give strength to others.

5. Don't demand perfection of yourself. A is usually awarded to the person who scores 90 percent or better, and sometimes the score doesn't need to be that high. Professional basketball players only make half their shots. Professional quarterback complete only half their passes, and professional baseball players reach first base less than 40 percent of the time, and that includes walks. And we all know what our averages are in picking stocks to invest in that are always going up. That would be never! Give your best effort every day and keep ratcheting forward. Perfection is not only totally unrealistic to expect and virtually impossible to achieve, but it greatly deters your ability to move forward. The person who is constantly looking over his or her shoulder at what might have been done better, can't possibly be focused on the future. Drive with your eyes ahead; don't drive by concentrating on the rearview mirror.

6. Give each job or task your best effort. Countless individuals say, when confronted with a chore, "I'm too good to be doing this." They have contempt for their current situation and position, and get discouraged easily. Success is an accumulation of what you do in the minutes of each day. No task is too unworthy to do well. There are no small parts – only small actors.

7. View the big picture of life. Step back from the landscape of your life today and take a long walk, ride a bike, or just sit silently, observing the wonder and abundance of God's creation in nature. You are a part of a much bigger whole. Listen to the subtle rhythms of your environment. Recognize that you have rhythms and cycles of change in your life. Relax and open up to the vast creative and interrelated world around you.

To develop confidence, you must see yourself ultimately as a unique part of creation. You must recognize, with pleasure that nobody else is just like you. No one else has exactly your temperament, history or experiences. No one else has your footprints, your fingerprints, your voiceprint or your genetic code. No one else has precisely your set of talents, capabilities and skills. You are one of a kind. The value is there. It just needs to be dusted off and polished.

Punch Line for the day: "Whatever the job you are asked to do at whatever level, do a good job because your reputation is your resume." Madeleine Albright (1937 - ) former U.S. Secretary of State first foreign-born U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations

Here's to the crazy ones.
The misfits.
The rebels.
The trouble-makers.
The round heads in the square holes.

The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them. But the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.

Amin...

One day I decided to quit...I quit my job, my relationship, my

Spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. "God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me...

"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied.

"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." He said.

"In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit." He said.

"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He said to me.

"Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"

"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you."

"Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."

"Your time will come", God said to me. "You will rise high"

"How high should I rise?" I asked.

"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.

"As high as it can?" I questioned

"Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."

I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.

He will never give up on you!

"POLITICIANS  &  DIAPERS  BOTH  NEED  TO  BE  CHANGED, AND  FOR  THE  SAME  REASON"

THEY  START  STINKING  AFTER  SOME  TIME..

Fellow bloggers can add on to the quote...

Elizabeth  &  Pedro  met after 1000 years..after  several  life times...does'nt it sounds weird !!

But its true...yes you guessed right, i m talking about Re-incarnation, Life after Death, Past life etc.. etc..Dr. Brian Weiss (A graduate of Columbia University and Yale Medical School, Brian L. Weiss M.D. is Chairman Emeritus of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami) was shocked when one of his patient under treatment started recalling his past life..not one life but many lifes. After lot of Research and using hypnotic & regression therapies on many patients Dr. Weiss today is worlds foremost authority in past life, after life & re-incarnation experiences.

Now coming back to Elizabeth & Pedro's story, both were under treatment of Dr.Weiss without any knowledge of each others existance. During treatment Dr.Weiss discovered that they were lovers in their past life..1000 years back..they kept meeting eachother in other lifes in different relationships..now they met again in Dr. Weiss's clinic. The point here is again a universal belief of same soul & many bodies..Souls keep meeting if they have very strong bonds in previous lifes..specially the cases of love..True love comes back..true lovers meet again & again. 

This story is told in Dr. Weiss 's book " Only Love is Real". A must read for those who like non-fiction (this will turn out to be more exciting than fiction) 

A few months ago NIMH (National Institute of Mentally Handicapped, Hyderabad,INDIA) had conducted a sports meet for all the Physically & mentally handicapped children at National Stadium Hyderabad.

In one race...Nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled,assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash. At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.

All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry.

They slowed down and looked back.

Then they all turned around and went back......every one of them.

One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, "This will make it better."

Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line.

Everyone in the stadium stood, and the cheering went on for several minutes. People who were there are still telling the story.

Why??

Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

If you pass this on, we may be able to change our hearts as well as someone else's. "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle"

"If You Have An Apple And I Have An Apple

And We Exchange Apples,

Then You And I Will Still Each Have One Apple.

But If You Have An Idea And I Have An Idea

And We Exchange These Ideas,

Then Each Of Us Will Have Two Ideas."

-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)